It’s Official

The day I had prayed over so many times had finally arrived.  When my phone rang, I was getting out of the shower and had just missed the call but received a voicemail message.  It was our OB’s office calling to tell us the results of our Panorama genetic screening test were in.  Even as I began to listen to the voicemail “Hi Mrs. Gurley, this is Atrium OB. We are calling with good news from your test results…”  my heart beat faster with every passing second. Good news!  There’s good news!  I had lifted prayer after prayer that if it were the Lord’s will that our child be healthy, we asked with all of our being that He make it so.  Finally, a sigh of relief.  I knew the test results were good, which meant I only needed to call the office back for one additional (oh-so-exciting) piece of information – to find out the sex of baby Gurley!

So, I dialed the number to Dustin’s office as fast as I could. He picked up quickly (thank the Lord) and I blurt out “The test results are back and they’re good and we need to call to find out what we’re having!”  He stammers out a “Ok…. great! Let’s call now!”  so I conferenced him in on the call to the office and we waited with bated breath as it rang, we stumbled through the phone tree, made the selection, and we finally heard our nurse answer the phone. I can remember it very well — Cathy, our fantastic OB nurse, said she was so happy our test results finally arrived (it was one day later than expected and 3 o’clock on a Friday afternoon) and that they were all normal – and she  asked again if we still wanted to know what we were having. “YES!” I shrieked/squealed.

That’s when she said…

“It’s a little girl! You’re having a girl.”

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My shimmering wedding shoes with Baby Girl’s first pair of shimmer shoes!

And the tears came pouring down.  I couldn’t help it. I didn’t know why, but in that moment all I could think of was the happiness swelling in my heart and the knowledge that in a few short months, I’d be giving birth to my best friend.

Of course, Cathy starts crying and she courteously exits the call. I think I just sat there crying with Dustin asking me “Are you ok? Are you sure you’re happy?” and of course I was. I was also probably a hormonal mess; but I couldn’t vocalize my happiness through the tears so I’m sure he had to ask twice whether I was happy or not given the amount of tears.  Finally I was able to tell him yes, yes I was SO happy. And I also admitted what I hadn’t wanted to admit to myself all along: I wanted a girl.  I wanted a little girl with every fiber of my being.  I just couldn’t bring myself to admit that I could be selfish enough to ask God to give us not only a healthy baby, but the baby GIRL I’ve been dreaming of for so long.

Drake and Dustin showing off the reveal box they painted for me with Adam’s help! So cute.

Whether I was selfish or not, I do know hearing the words “It’s a girl!” were the best words I’d heard since “Will you marry me?”. Truthfully, it was one of the happiest days of my life.  We have had a great time telling our friends and families that a whole new world of “pink” is fast approaching.  Our little girl is the first girl born to our families since 10 years ago this fall when our sweet niece was born. That’s four boys born since 2003 between both our families and we are excited our little girl is breaking the streak.  She is going to be so spoiled, sassy, and a handful just like her mom was. But I pray she also has the kindest of hearts and a beautiful, humble nature like her dad. I think every day of all the things I want to teach her, and the person I hope she becomes.  But above all, I want her to KNOW the indescribable love of her Father God.  We fully recognize that our Father is giving her to us on loan — she is not truly ours at all, she is HIS beautiful child.  And by knowing Him, she will know True Love beyond compare.  I just cannot wait for her to get here.

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We released four pink balloons to the heavens and left one tied that says “Baby Girl”. Such a fun day!
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Captain Dustin taking the Live Well out for the first drive of the season and for Baby Gurley’s first boat ride ever ;)
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Mema tied two of our extra balloons to the beach house mailbox following the reveal. :)
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The start of our “Ba-bee” girl collection. We just can’t say no to anything bee related for her! And can you believe the bee on the tooshy? Oh. My. Word!

Counting down the days to October 24 to meet our little Gurley Girl… :)

20 Weeks and 5 days stats

Baby is the size of: Banana!

Favorite food this week: Cheeseburgers (odd, since I never liked/ate cheeseburgers before pregnancy unless I had to.)

Babymoon #2: Baltimore, MD to see my Amster! May 30-June 1

Baby’s first kick: felt on Tuesday, June 4. Feeling kicks nightly now just as I am falling asleep! :)

Maternity clothes: Always on, all the time. I try putting on pre-pregnancy tunic tops and am always surprised at the fact my belly doesn’t fit in them anymore. We are growing for sure!

Wedding rings on or off:  ON! For now… getting tighter on those super hot days!

 

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15 Weeks, 5 Days

I cannot believe we are already only a few days away from being 16 weeks along with our sweet little Baby Bee.  Ever since we found out we were expecting, we’ve been calling Baby Gurley our little Baby Bee.  We buy lots of bee things around here because it reminds us of a special time in our life – when the Tar Heel was a SCAD Bee down in Savannah!  Now we can hardly wait to add one more very special Bee to our family this fall :)

We started a garden, the perfect spot for our baby Bee spinning flag!

And as of almost two weeks ago, we now know what our little Baby Bee will “bee”!  We are so excited.  When we went for my 12 week visit and ultrasound, we were presented with the option of doing some testing for chromosomal changes that may indicate serious disorders or syndromes.  I had really wrestled with this, and after speaking to a few friends, had pretty much decided we wouldn’t do any testing.  We figured no matter the outcome of the tests, we wouldn’t change anything.  One of the major perks of being pregnant in PA school is having access to some incredible medical resources.  One of my mentors at school happens to have practiced women’s health for 20+ years. When I mentioned to her we decided against testing, she kindly asked if I cared to know what she often told patients with regard to testing. Of course I was interested to find out. She told me that for many years she carried the same belief that I had – regardless of testing, it wouldn’t change the outcome (with regards to aborting). And that was ok for a while, until she began to see the many couples who opted not to test who ended up having a child with needs who could have benefited greatly from being born in a hospital with every resource available, a decision the parents could have made with the knowledge gained from prenatal testing.  And for those children, every prolonged second of care in transport can significantly impact their quality of life down the road.  I share all of this for anyone who may come across the blog who is trying to make the same decision we were.  Of course, this is not a blanket statement for everyone and each mother-to-be should have a very candid discussion with their partner and physician before making this decision.  But for us, the option to test made a lot of sense, so we went for it.

The test we chose to go with is called Panorama and is a simple blood test (not invasive). The test separates my DNA, the baby’s DNA, and Dustin’s DNA (by a cheek swab) in order to analyze for chromosomal abnormalities.  This test is over 99% accurate for detecting changes of chromosomes 13, 18, and 21.   As an added bonus, it also looks for the X and Y chromosomes which determine the baby’s sex. So, two weeks ago this Friday we got a great test report AND found out what our sweet Baby Bee will “bee”!!  Isn’t medicine amazing?

For now, what our little Baby Bee will “bee” is our little secret. We are keeping it a secret for another little secret we have :) Gosh, secrets are fun when you’re the one who knows them!!!!!!

Here’s some pregnancy stats so far:

Weeks of morning sickness:11.5 (thank goodness we got through that!)

Baby is the size of: Avocado!

Favorite food this week: Watermelon and Chocolate Milk

Babymoon: Ocracoke Island in April!

Maternity Clothes: Still sporting my dresses, tops, and some work pants. Just purchased first pair of maternity jeans!

Thing I miss the most from pre-pregnancy: My beloved Diet Pepsi

Thing I love most about pregnancy: Of course I look forward to seeing our little Bee on U/S, but there’s nothing like waking up each day remembering that our bundle of love is growing stronger each day inside my belly. I am still in awe at the whole process. More superficially, the thicker locks are nice. :)